"Self-centered" vs. "Self-focused"

In his Book “Emerging Adults in America,” Arnett explains the five features of emerging adulthood. He distinguished the self-focused stage from the self-centered which is synonymous with being selfish. Arnett describes emerging adults have little social obligations, duties and commitments to others, which leave them with a great deal of autonomy in running their lives; don't have long-term commitments and have more freedom to be introspective.

According to dictionary.com, self-centered is defined as being concerned solely or chiefly with one's own interests, welfare, etc.; engrossed in self; selfish; egotistical.' whereas self-focus is defined as a central point, as of attraction, attention, or activity.

Self-centered has a negative connotation as it tends to bring to mind words like narcissistic. Self-focus has a more positive connotation than self-centered, because when I have heard the term self-focused, it is often associated with achieving one's goals and taking responsibility of one’s life.

Different societies differ on the preference for self-centered or self-focused individuals. Countries like the United States which are more individualistic, would prefer self-centered individuals who are able to create opportunities for themselves; whereas westernized countries would place more value on families, the community and greater society. Westernized countries might prefer self-focused because these individuals are seen as responsible adults. Self-focused would describe me because I am often introspective and try to process life events and figure out areas to improve. I also am a very compassionate and care about others; it’s not always about me.

In relation to the family, self-focus can be better in fostering a healthy and conducive environment for the family unit. Since early adulthood is a great time for emerging adults to move away from home and transform the outcome of their lives, self-focus can be a stage that facilitates learning and unity.